psych talk with poonam

  These Emotional Waves I’m Riding This Week This week has felt like a storm inside my heart. Not the kind of storm you see in movies with thunder and lightning— but the quiet one, the one that only you can feel. The one that shows up at midnight when the world is sleeping, and you are wide awake, asking yourself why does it hurt this much? I’ve been going through so many emotions lately— grief, confusion, anger, and that deep ache of wanting someone to understand me. Some days, I wake up and smile at the sunlight because it feels like hope. Other days, I stare at the ceiling and wonder how to carry the weight in my chest. It’s strange how life moves on like nothing happened— but inside, your heart is still catching up with everything you’ve lost, everything you’ve felt, everything you didn’t say. This week taught me something though: 💛 It’s okay to feel deeply. 💛 It’s okay to not have all the answers. 💛 It’s okay to cry for people you love and miss. I realized ...

Have you ever found yourself scrolling endlessly on Instagram 📱, binge-watching a series late into the night 🌙, or keeping yourself too busy — just so you don’t have to think about how you actually feel? If yes... then maybe you’ve tasted emotional escapism — that quiet habit of running away from your own feelings. In today’s fast-moving world, it’s become so easy to avoid emotions that make us uncomfortable. We often label sadness, fear, or anger as bad feelings — and then try to silence them with distractions. But the truth is: emotions don’t disappear. They just wait… until one day, they overflow. 🌊 Why Do We Escape Our Emotions? 🤔 We’ve grown up in a world where expressing emotions is often seen as “being weak.” From childhood, many of us are told things like: “Be strong.” “Stop crying.” “Move on.” And even though those words may come from love, they quietly teach us to hide instead of heal . 💬💔 So we start escaping because: We're scared to feel too deep...

  Introduction Friendship is one of the most beautiful bonds we form in life. It’s built on love, trust, and the comfort of knowing someone has your back. But sometimes, the very people we care for the most start treating us like we’re just there . And that’s when friendship begins to hurt. We often talk about relationships needing care, communication, and support — but forget that friendship needs the same effort too . People forget to appreciate this bond, assuming it will always remain strong. But no connection stays alive without effort — not even friendship. And let’s not forget: Friendship doesn’t have a gender. It’s not limited by labels — it’s about energy, respect, and presence. 1. Signs You’re Being Taken for Granted You’re always the first to check in — they rarely do. They expect you to be available, but never ask how you are. When you set boundaries, they get distant or defensive. You forgive them quickly, but they don’t offer the same grace. Y...

  🌿 The Mirror Called Family: A Blessing, A Burden, A Beginning There are two kinds of families people talk about— One that builds you. And one that breaks you. But I’ve come to believe: most families… do both. They build some parts of you while breaking others. And somehow, both versions are true. 🧠 The Psychology Behind Family Bonds From a psychological view, our family forms the blueprint of how we love, fear, trust, and even how we see ourselves . Our attachment style—secure or insecure—often comes from the way our parents responded to our needs as a child. Psychologist John Bowlby, who introduced Attachment Theory , explained this so well: “The way we are loved becomes the way we expect to be loved.” So if your family showed warmth, encouragement, and emotional safety—you’re likely to grow with confidence and empathy. But if there was emotional neglect, criticism, comparison, or control, it can lead to low self-worth, anxiety, or people-pleasing. 🌸 My ...

  💔 “You Don’t Love the One Who Heals You — You Heal Yourself First” Yesterday, something unexpected happened. Not the type that shocks you, but the one that quietly shakes something inside. A guy friend — someone I’ve known for years — said he “loves” me. It wasn’t poetic. It wasn’t sober either. It was messy, over a call, with alcohol in the mix and a long pause after: “Tum humko karti ho ki nahin?” And there I was — stuck between friendship and forced emotion . Between truth and tolerance . 🧠 Let’s pause. And think — What is love, really? Is it something you discover when you’re vulnerable and drunk? Is it a person you suddenly notice after years of talking about other girls? Is love… a fixer? A therapist? A mother? Because that’s what he said: “Tum hi ho jo mujhe sudhar sakti ho.” But let me ask something — Why do we expect someone else to fix us when we’re broken? Is it really love? Or is it the comfort of someone emotionally available when the wo...

  🧠 “Memory: Woh Dimaag Ka Magic Chip!” Have you ever entered a room and completely forgotten why you came in? Yeah, same yaar — dimaag hai ya USB stick, full ho gaya lagta hai kabhi kabhi! 😅 But seriously, memory is one of the most fascinating things about our brain. It holds the stories of who we are, where we’ve been, and sometimes... even those embarrassing school dance moves we wish we could forget! 💃🏻 💡 What is Memory, Really? In psychology, memory is the process of encoding, storing, and retrieving information . Sounds technical, right? But imagine this: You smell a certain perfume, and boom! — you’re back to your nani’s house during summer holidays. That's your episodic memory kicking in — the emotional, story-based one. And then there’s procedural memory — like riding a cycle. Once you learn it, it's stored deep like a "kaam wala shortcut" your brain never forgets. 😄 🌪️ Types of Memory – Ek Choti Si Jhalak: Sensory Memory – It’s li...