Escapism from Emotion: A Silent Struggle ππ
Have you ever found yourself scrolling endlessly on Instagram π±, binge-watching a series late into the night π, or keeping yourself too busy — just so you don’t have to think about how you actually feel?
If yes... then maybe you’ve tasted emotional escapism — that quiet habit of running away from your own feelings.
In today’s fast-moving world, it’s become so easy to avoid emotions that make us uncomfortable. We often label sadness, fear, or anger as bad feelings — and then try to silence them with distractions. But the truth is: emotions don’t disappear. They just wait… until one day, they overflow. π
Why Do We Escape Our Emotions? π€
We’ve grown up in a world where expressing emotions is often seen as “being weak.”
From childhood, many of us are told things like:
“Be strong.”
“Stop crying.”
“Move on.”
And even though those words may come from love, they quietly teach us to hide instead of heal. π¬π
So we start escaping because:
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We're scared to feel too deeply πΆπ«️
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We think no one will get it π
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We don’t know how to deal with what we feel π§
So what do we do? We run — not with our feet, but with our mind and heart.
What Does Emotional Escapism Look Like? π³️
Escapism isn’t always dramatic.
In fact, it’s usually very quiet — like:
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Mindless scrolling on your phone π±
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Staying busy all the time just to avoid thinking π♀️
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Binge-watching shows you don’t even like πΊ
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Pretending you’re fine when you’re breaking inside π
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Drinking, smoking, or anything to “feel nothing” π·π¬
Even saying “It’s okay, I’m fine” when you’re not — that’s emotional escapism too.
Sometimes, even positive phrases like “Everything happens for a reason” become a way to skip actually feeling the pain.
When Unspoken Emotions Turn Into Rudeness ππ’
Let’s be real — some people don’t know how to express their emotions...
So they become rude instead.
They act cold. Distant. Sarcastic.
They say things like:
“You should already know.”
“I don’t wanna explain. Forget it.”
and speak like it’s your fault for not understanding.
But here's the truth:
Most people were never taught how to communicate their pain.
So instead of saying “I’m hurt” or “I feel ignored,” they throw sharp words and build emotional walls.
And yes — it hurts when someone speaks rudely while expecting you to just understand. π
But remember: No one is a mind reader. π§ ❌
Respect works both ways — even when someone is hurting.
If you're in pain, it's okay to ask for space.
But being harsh and expecting to be understood without opening up? That’s not fair — to you or to them. π
The Cost of Escaping π§
Escaping emotions might give momentary peace, but it slowly disconnects you from yourself.
When you keep avoiding your feelings:
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You become numb — even to joy π
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You lose emotional closeness with others π¬
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You feel restless even in happy moments π
Avoidance isn’t healing. It’s just postponing the truth.
So, What Can We Do Instead? π±
Here’s what I’ve learned (and still learning every day):
You don’t need to fight your emotions. You need to feel them. π
Try this:
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Name your feeling.
Saying “I’m sad” out loud is brave. π¬ -
Write it down.
Journaling helps you make sense of the chaos. π️π -
Talk to someone safe.
You don’t need to carry it alone. π€ -
Just breathe.
Sit with your feeling — no rush, no shame. π§♀️
Let yourself feel. It’s the only way to heal. π€
A Small Realization from Me... πΈ
Honestly? I’ve been there too.
There were days I smiled while I was breaking inside. Days I distracted myself just so I didn’t have to face the storm in my heart.
But slowly I understood — emotions aren’t our enemies. They’re our messages. They come to teach, not to punish. π
And when I started listening to what I felt instead of escaping…
I started healing.
Final Thoughts πΌ
Escapism might feel easier.
But facing your feelings — even the uncomfortable ones — is where the real strength is. πͺ
So next time you catch yourself escaping, just pause for a moment and ask:
“What am I running from?”
And then… gently, slowly…
Come back to yourself. π
Because you deserve to feel, to heal, and to be whole. πΏ
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