psych talk with poonam

  Introduction Friendship is one of the most beautiful bonds we form in life. It’s built on love, trust, and the comfort of knowing someone has your back. But sometimes, the very people we care for the most start treating us like we’re just there . And that’s when friendship begins to hurt. We often talk about relationships needing care, communication, and support — but forget that friendship needs the same effort too . People forget to appreciate this bond, assuming it will always remain strong. But no connection stays alive without effort — not even friendship. And let’s not forget: Friendship doesn’t have a gender. It’s not limited by labels — it’s about energy, respect, and presence. 1. Signs You’re Being Taken for Granted You’re always the first to check in — they rarely do. They expect you to be available, but never ask how you are. When you set boundaries, they get distant or defensive. You forgive them quickly, but they don’t offer the same grace. Y...

  🌿 The Mirror Called Family: A Blessing, A Burden, A Beginning There are two kinds of families people talk about— One that builds you. And one that breaks you. But I’ve come to believe: most families… do both. They build some parts of you while breaking others. And somehow, both versions are true. 🧠 The Psychology Behind Family Bonds From a psychological view, our family forms the blueprint of how we love, fear, trust, and even how we see ourselves . Our attachment style—secure or insecure—often comes from the way our parents responded to our needs as a child. Psychologist John Bowlby, who introduced Attachment Theory , explained this so well: “The way we are loved becomes the way we expect to be loved.” So if your family showed warmth, encouragement, and emotional safety—you’re likely to grow with confidence and empathy. But if there was emotional neglect, criticism, comparison, or control, it can lead to low self-worth, anxiety, or people-pleasing. 🌸 My ...

  💔 “You Don’t Love the One Who Heals You — You Heal Yourself First” Yesterday, something unexpected happened. Not the type that shocks you, but the one that quietly shakes something inside. A guy friend — someone I’ve known for years — said he “loves” me. It wasn’t poetic. It wasn’t sober either. It was messy, over a call, with alcohol in the mix and a long pause after: “Tum humko karti ho ki nahin?” And there I was — stuck between friendship and forced emotion . Between truth and tolerance . 🧠 Let’s pause. And think — What is love, really? Is it something you discover when you’re vulnerable and drunk? Is it a person you suddenly notice after years of talking about other girls? Is love… a fixer? A therapist? A mother? Because that’s what he said: “Tum hi ho jo mujhe sudhar sakti ho.” But let me ask something — Why do we expect someone else to fix us when we’re broken? Is it really love? Or is it the comfort of someone emotionally available when the wo...

  🧠 “Memory: Woh Dimaag Ka Magic Chip!” Have you ever entered a room and completely forgotten why you came in? Yeah, same yaar — dimaag hai ya USB stick, full ho gaya lagta hai kabhi kabhi! 😅 But seriously, memory is one of the most fascinating things about our brain. It holds the stories of who we are, where we’ve been, and sometimes... even those embarrassing school dance moves we wish we could forget! 💃🏻 💡 What is Memory, Really? In psychology, memory is the process of encoding, storing, and retrieving information . Sounds technical, right? But imagine this: You smell a certain perfume, and boom! — you’re back to your nani’s house during summer holidays. That's your episodic memory kicking in — the emotional, story-based one. And then there’s procedural memory — like riding a cycle. Once you learn it, it's stored deep like a "kaam wala shortcut" your brain never forgets. 😄 🌪️ Types of Memory – Ek Choti Si Jhalak: Sensory Memory – It’s li...

  “This Room, This Journey…✨” Hey, Right now, I’m just sitting and tutoring — the usual. But suddenly, I paused and looked around my room… and something felt different . 💭 This room didn’t always look like this. There’s a poster on the wall 🖼️, curtains gently swaying 🌬️, a whiteboard filled with scribbles, a desk, my own laptop 💻, a little bookshelf 📚, and some side plants (even if they’re artificial, they still bring peace 🌿). It wasn’t always like this. This cozy corner I now sit in — it didn’t appear overnight. It’s the result of a journey that’s taken over 2 and a half years . 💫 In the beginning, I didn’t even have my own bed in this room. But slowly, piece by piece, I made it mine. 🛏️ And then it struck me — If just a room took so much time to grow, to become what it is today… then of course, we humans need time too. 🌱 Not everything can or should change in an instant. True transformation takes time. ✨ Achievements overnight are good… but the growth of...

  Random Realization of the Day 💭✨ Aaj ka din thoda thoughtless sa lag raha tha — koi deep ya random soch dimaag mein aayi hi nahi. 😅 Maybe because I didn't intentionally sit down to reflect. But you know what? While studying Social Psychology today, I ended up noticing something interesting… about myself . 💡🧠 I realized how super confident I feel when I’m alone in my room, dancing like a total queen 👑🔥 — especially to item songs (yes, I said it 😜). I mean… the sass, the steps, the vibe — I be like “Main hi sabse hot hoon yahan!” 💃💅 But the moment I’m with my girls... poora scene change ho jaata hai. 😶😬 I get nervous, awkward even. Kabhi kabhi toh muh bhi ajeeb ban jaata hai jaise... “What the hell am I doing?” Suddenly I feel like the worst dancer in the room. 😭🫣 And then comes that dramatic inner voice: “Ewww Poonam, seriously?” 🤦‍♀️💀 Aur phir khud pe hi hansi aa jaati hai. "Pagal hai tu yaar!" 😂🫶 I don’t know... maybe I am a little ma...

  Emotion is a very important part of human life. Emotions make humans different from other species. According to psychologists, emotion is a complex state of feeling that results in physical and psychological changes that influence thought and behavior. Emotions are subjective experiences that are often associated with mood, temperament, personality, and disposition. Some examples of emotions are joy, sorrow, fear, hate, love, etc. Emotion is also a reaction to a situation or stimulus. According to Paul Ekman, there are six basic emotions: Happiness😄 Sadness😔 Fear😨 Disgust😒 Anger😡 Surprise😮 These emotions are universal and experienced by people all over the world.